Care homes for older people


Sparhawk

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Jan 18, 2020
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If your parents were getting old and infirm, what would you do as far as making sure they were looked after?

Is it always wise to have them live in a nursing home, or do you feel that is mean and impersonal?

Many people I speak to are not 100% sure on the subject. They seem to feel like on the one hand, it's best for their old folks to have appropriate care and the company of other older people. But they also think it's nice if their parents can stay in the family home and continue to function independently for as long as they are able.

 

NRG18

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Jan 25, 2020
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I am getting to the point where I have to decide what to do with my folks. 

Married 42 years, bless em. But they can't go on in this situation. My mom fell and broke her hip in 2018, hasn't been the same since, struggling to get around etc. She uses a cane and gets some help, but it is just starting to look tough on both of them really...

 

Silver Surfer

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Jan 19, 2020
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These sort of things are never easy and I don't think there are any sort of general rules.

I all depends on the situation, but in general I am inclined to think that as long as people can stay in their own home en be independent the better.

I am getting to the point where I have to decide what to do with my folks. 

Married 42 years, bless em. But they can't go on in this situation. My mom fell and broke her hip in 2018, hasn't been the same since, struggling to get around etc. She uses a cane and gets some help, but it is just starting to look tough on both of them really...
My mother is now 92 and she broke her hip 8 years ago. At first it was hard for her to get around, but later on that improved and she has to use a stick as well to get around, but she's still in her own home.

Her sister went into a nursing home and died witin three months. 

Ofcourse that does not mean anything as such, but I've seen situations before when people don't last long once they're put into those homes. And then I read horror stories where they split up married couples.

I suppose it all comes down to money as well in the end. If you have plenty of that I'm sure they are lot;s of nice places you can go to, but if money is an issue it's more problematic.

So, what's wisdom? 

 

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